My parents listened as we expressed a wide range of emotions. The thoughts and emotions I was never able to gain control over were anger from fear of feeling a helpless victim and the violation of our home and personal items. The thieves took quite a few things, some replaceable and some were not, but what they took from each of us personally; the mental and emotional toll were not easily comforted.
Sometime later I ran across a very empowering statement. I don’t recall the author of the statement, but the words were powerful and true. “You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be.” And it is true. I had a choice. I knew I didn’t like feeling helpless or feeling like a victim and no one could change that but me.
I began training in various martial arts disciplines and considering weapons. Each time I went shopping around for weapons, I was always led to the pretty handguns with pearl grips. Although I am sure they would have been sufficient in most cases, I was frustrated with the stereo-typing from salesmen.
I was a woman and I wanted a weapon…
I just wasn’t able to find what I had in mind. I really like the 12 gauge pump action shotguns, but the kickback was strong. I wanted a weapon which, when presented, intimidated the threat at the very sight of it; a weapon that would make them stop and think about the real consequences of their actions. I wanted a powerful weapon, like the 12 gauge, but something easier to handle.
Over the years, I kept searching and during that time I was gifted with a few nice handguns and a classic Winchester rifle, but the best gift is the one I received this past Christmas…
A Mossberg 20 gauge pump action shotgun with a pistol grip…
I tried to add the image to this post but the image was too big, so here is a link to my blog where it is posted.
I think it is a perfect weapon for women. I am a short person, standing 5’4, so the pistol grip makes the size perfect and easy to handle. The shotgun has very little kickback and now I have the powerful, intimidating pump action weapon I was searching for, thanks to a considerate and thoughtful husband.
This morning, as I was writing this article, I clicked over to Facebook and saw an article on 20 gauge shotguns written by Massad Ayoob on the Backwoods Home website. What timing!
Of course, make no mistake in thinking that having a weapon is enough. Knowing whether or not you will be able to use it when the time comes is even more important than the choice of weapon.
I have taught my sons that before they ever hold a weapon in their hands for self-defense, they need to be prepared by knowing whether or not they will be able to really use it. I also let them know that not being able to use a weapon is nothing to be ashamed of. It simply means they need to find alternatives that work for them.
Maybe it’s not always about trying to fix something broken. Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better.